Before i start i know what i did was wrong (and i am paying for it) but i have a feeling that won’t go away…
Long story short, i fell in love (i think i did) with my sister in law (my wife’s brothers wife) while my wife was out of the country. We developed what i come to know as an emotional affair. We texted each other Constantly and we were together whenever possible. We kept this secret for nearly 4 months, never becoming physical but by this time i wanted more with her. We talked about it, but she talked me out of it, saying we couldn’t be cruel to our spouses. I agreed, but i really loved her. She never told me her emotions for me because she says she not that kind of person (which was a lie and later i tell you why).
Before i continue, i need to stated that this woman was the worst enemy of my wife before all this. They had worked together before. My wife always said nasty things about her, saying that she was cheating on her brother with another guy, but i never believed it. I confronted my S-I-L if that was true, she said no, and i believed it.
Anyways, Me and my S-I-L became close friends. So close. though that one day we end up having sex. No alcohol, no drugs, just straight minded sex. Well, the next day, she says that she doesn’t feel anything for me and we shouldn’t talk to each anymore. That was i like a train hitting me over and over. Well i broken heart, tried to bring up dirt about this other guy she cheated with, and i had evidence, but before i could tell my brother in law, she found out i knew something and she threatened to tell EVERYTHING to everyone. I didn’t know what to do at this point, so i had to confess first. I told my family and my wife (which she still was out of the country). When my brother in law, that harlot, and i sat down to discuss the situation, the ***** completeley denied it. We never slept with each other and i was the one chasing her. She spewed nastly venom and became the greatest actress i ever seen. Accusing me of force kissing her. That she never said she wanted me and i betrayed our friendship.She turned the whole thing on me. in the end, i lost my wife’s trust and probably our marriage and she went home with husband believing her.
So my question here is: should I destroy her life by taking everything she has away from her, even if it hurts my brother in law??
my method doesn’t involve hurting her physically or mentally, but financially and economically. (deportation)
Freddie, I understand your emotions. But you have got to understand something. You not only committed several sins, but now your angry that your choices have destroyed your life. You have hurt your wife tremendously and the entire family. Granted this women you CHOSE to have an affair with is evil, she will pay for her sins. It is not for you to choose how she should be punished. You are a controlling, selfish man, and your actions prove it. All you can do now is learn from your own mistakes and let it teach you to be a better man.
Situations like this destroy people and I pray you and your wife had no children together. How will hurting the evil women make things better. Will it win you back your wife? Will it help your brother in law? Will it heal the painful wounds you and she inflicted upon this family?
I think the answer to all of these questions is no. You should be more focused on saving your marriage and apologizing to the entire family for your own actions. You should be begging for forgiveness and showing shame and humility. I suggest you look deep within your heart and soul and consider that yes she did wrong too, But Sir, you did too. and your actions alone should be all your concerned with right now. I wish you well God Bless and your wife. I will pray for your situation. I think you should do the same.
belladonna112 | Aug 24, 2009
PLEASE…
LEARN PROPER ENGLISH.
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brii_lopez637 | Aug 24, 2009
You should grow up. Haven’t you caused enough heartache for your loved ones? You want to hurt your brother in law more?
Kitty Gold | Aug 24, 2009
I think your a pig for cheating with her anyway, that’s sick, I hope your wife fucks you royaly you jerk. no ojne on here is going to feel sorry for you for cheating on your wife, get over it. you screwed up with your wife and yur brother in law will see she is a whore too. U have no spympathey from me .
klc991979_26 | Aug 24, 2009
it really sound like you are getting what you deserve sorry to say that but you don’t need to blame anyone but your self, now it time to
learn from this and try to move on and be a better husband and
brother and for revenge that not good for any one.
Stephanie | Aug 24, 2009
Deport the BIT@#! she deserves it! We have to many of her kind here in this country its time to wipe them OUT!
Ms Pollyanna | Aug 24, 2009
I’d say do nothing…what goes around comes around…what good is it going to do you. You made a mistake by getting involved with her in the first place. It could have been because your wife was out of the country. But it will do you and your family no good to be revengeful. Just forgive her like the bible says and move on with your life. In the end, she will get hers.
chemred2 | Aug 24, 2009
Deportation….is a bit harsh! If you want to get her back simply get a copy of the text records duh ! Its easy call your cell phone company & they can email you it all. It will prove she is a lying cheating SLUT
If things with your wife…shame on you !
Hope this helps & GOOD LUCK!!
Stephanie
steph | Aug 24, 2009
You will go to hell and bring your family with you.
First NameLaura | Aug 24, 2009
Dude, you cheated on your wife. You screwed around with your brother-in-law’s wife. You are in no position to exact revenge. She’s no saint, but your biggest problem is *you*. She isn’t worth the time of day. Focus on fixing yourself and what you can of your marriage. Take full responsibility for your behavior and use it to catapult you to become a better person. NO MORE CHEATING!
onebriiguy | Aug 24, 2009
she might have turned the tables on you,,but you were just as guilty.
All you want now is revenge…I think she has cheated before,she will cheat again..and he will eventually catch her at it.
Maybe you could get some guy to set her up,like they do on that cheating show,they send another person in to flirt and lure,,,and then catch them in the act,usually in his or her car.
That would be what I would do…I would want her to be caught doing the act…
texasirishrose | Aug 24, 2009
You had an affair with this crazy lady. Then you felt hurt she didn’t love you. You try to get at her back by digging up dirt on her other affair. Then you risk you own marriage to ruin hers. All this under the guise that you’re trying to do the right thing for your brother-in-law. Now that you lost big time, you’re still trying to extract some revenge.
I think this about sums it up. What you should do next is take a look at your own life and see how to salvage what you can.
Mack L | Aug 24, 2009
You know your part in it was wrong and low so ill skip that bit.
I understand you are hurt, She led you to believe that there was more to the affair then there was. You risked your marriage to be with her and in turn lost your wife. It is disgusting her part in this especially all the lies and i can see why you are frustrated that she pretty much walked away unscathed. However, i believe most of your revenge is coming from her not wanting to be with you not the fact you lost your wife, as you loved her not your wife. I think you are hurt and feel like a fool. But she didn’t make you do it and cheating spouses very rarely leave their marriage, they all lie when confronted. I think you should do whatever you need to in order to get over it and no longer be bitter, but i doubt having her deported will, Does she have kids? If so could you be that cruel to her children? Its not their fault the two of you had an affair. Do what you want but i don’t believe revenge will help you heal any faster.
priv828 | Aug 24, 2009
STOP YOUR SHI*T,, TAKE A DEEP BREATH, NOW HOLD IT UNTIL I TELL YOU TO STOP!
Sara | Aug 24, 2009
repent of your adultery and yeah deport her, shes no good. but i bet if she still wanted you’d still be sinning,
Candy B | Aug 24, 2009
How about you both get the hell out of the country?
You deserve each other!
IslandArtiste | Aug 24, 2009
Being a women whose husband has cheated, All I can say is I hope it was worth it to you.
Instead of being so angry at your S-I-L and spending your energy on trying to destroy her in any form you should be concentrating
on why you did this. Sounds like you were the pursuer and she gave in.
Saving her married sounds like a priority to her and if your B-I-L chooses to believe her over you. God bless him for being so stupid. However, if it works for them, let it go.
Sounds like your ego is more hurt than anything, even though you mentioned this will probably end your marriage. I don’t hear anything about you not wanting to do so, that you regret what you did or that you even loved your wife. You did mentioned loosing your wife’s trust. If that’s all you lost you’ll be real lucky.
Back to your question you don’t have the right to destroy her life. Let me repeat YOU HAVE NO RIGHT at all ! If anything send her an Emmy in the best B. S. category and go on with your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself !
Sallow your ego pull your head out of your *** and wake up. Instead of worrying so much about how the other woman your S-I-L lied, did you wrong and how you feel so rejected, WORRY about your poor wife and concentrate on how she must feel. Think about how your lies and betrayal has affected her. Not only did you have an affair you were DUMB enough to choose a family member so you might want to think about how that will effect the dynamics of your wife’s entire family.
I hope for your wife’s sake the two of you don’t have children.
Wendy | Aug 25, 2009
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